This is a theory I came up with a while ago. I never thought I was a weak person but some times when confronted with a “hardcore” type, biker whatever it still seems intimidating. Are these people stronger or more able to deal with things? Well the answer in my opinion is NO. Here’s why.
Feeling are hard to deal with some times. It takes a strong chin to embrace, accept and understand what and why you are feeling what you are feeling. A person who is more open to walking with emotions is arguably stronger. A “hardcore” person essentially ignores these problems, they put them far back in their mind or claim to not feel them at all. Now is this true? Do they not have the feelings?
Now answer this? If you are not in touch with your mind and your emotions how are you supposed to grow as a person. How are you supposed to gain the coping mechanisms needed to deal with truly difficult events in your life? I say you can’t. So if you are always ignoring your feelings then you are never moving forward or getting any stronger as a human. Your level of understanding never grows and consequently you are more susceptible to crutch usages such as hard drugs, alcohol abuse and or violence.
You are also less connected to your friends and family. If you only express yourself through ignorance, violence and typical colder behaviours then you are a limited person. You never forge a closer relationship with anybody which again serves to reinforce your coping mechanisms for more difficult items. It also increases your happiness as you feel more connected to humanity in general which lowers your chance for negative addictions (drugs, alcohol, violence).
Opening up takes courage, more courage than hiding yourself. If you don’t take the risk you will never have the rewards.