I wanted to call this post, Love is a Business (but most people are trying to win the lottery). However, the title was a little too long to be snappy.
Laziness and entitlement are the scourge of the world. I deserve this, I deserve that is the cry of the new generation (of which I’m a part of). “You don’t deserve anything you don’t have, if you don’t have it, there is a reason you don’t have it,” is what I say.
So in that respect, how is love different from life? Is it an accident or luckthat people stay together. Like most things, weak people blame circumstance or situation (it is always too this or that, always not the right time, or whatever excuse you can think of) but you need to be the captain of your own ship. You need to take the bull by the horns and buck up.
Love takes work, that dreaded thing. It takes compromise and maturity. If everything was so easy, then everyone would be married happily ever after. But unfortunately, weak people just get bored, or think there is some other easier prize on the horizon. Why didn’t you go to school? “Well I was working” they say, but they don’t see the benefits in the future, they only see the shortest term goals. Sad, shallow and gratuitous.
So with all that groundwork put into place. Lets examine my analogy. Businesses take work, they require responsibility, planning and a certain je ne sais quoi? When there is a recession, you need to keep the faith and continue to plod forward, you can’t just get bored and leave it in the lurch. This is how life works… you need to stick with things to see them through.
If you go through life thinking you are going to simply win the lottery for money, then that is fine, but most likely it won’t happen so you will need to work, build and stick with a relationship.
And this needs to be mirrored in love. If you go out there and look for a good business partner, someone you can work with and weather the recessions, then you are set. If you are expecting to stay single, focus short-term and wait until some magical love bomb hits you in the face then you are mistaken.
You will be penniless, waiting in line at the lottery stand of love. Find a partner, enjoy the ride, stick with it and you will produce much happiness.